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Possible trip to Holland

Posted on October 10, 2012 Posted in 2012, Family, Nostalgic, Tourette Syndrome, TSFC .

No, I’m not planning on hopping on a plane and heading to Europe. Read on and you’ll understand the subject line of this post…

As a mom-to-be, I’m reflecting on my future and what being a parent can mean. The responsibilities, the adventures, the challenges.

Tomorrow I’m heading to Halifax and will be staying in Dartmouth for the National Conference on Tourette Syndrome Plus.

It’s been three years since I last attending an national conference with the TSFC. A lot of the great people at these conferences are like family to me. I’ve known them for years and we’ve gone through lots of ups and downs together. I have multiple “moms” that span from Toronto, Atlanta, and beyond.

My TS family

This other family is a unique support system that I feel very fortunate to have found. Everyone’s situation is different and no challenge is viewed as too small. And together we celebrate successes. Heck, when I was much younger, my mom had some major bragging rights one year when she managed find a type of sock that didn’t drive me nuts (sensory issues for the win!). You can laugh, but it’s just one of the fun adventures you can experience with there’s a spectrum disorder living in your home or family… and often more than one of you have something that makes you unique. It is typically hereditary after all!

I’ve talked about what it was like for me to be diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome (TS) when I was six-years old.

There are so many things I haven’t written about yet here… but will someday. Just need to find the time!

One session at the conference that I’m really looking forward to attending is the Moms’ Session that’s happening tomorrow night. Typically on the first night of the conference, there will be meeting rooms for attendees: the moms, the dads, the youth/young adults, the kids, the adults. Each group meets for a couple of hours. The moms and dads find this to be a really great session because they can talk to other moms and dads separately. Moms bond over mom issues; dads bond over dad issues.

Historically, always been part of the sessions for youth/young adults or the adults. But this year, I’m going to the moms’ session. I’m really looking forward to it. I’ve wanted to go to it for years and now it’s happening.

I’m finding it hard to find the right words to explain what’s going on in my head right now. I’m not hoping for our little one to have Tourettes, OCD, ADHD or anything else, but I’m not dreading the idea of that possible reality.

When I was born, I was a normal baby girl. You might even say I was a normie. My parents had no idea that I was about to introduce a whole new world to them in just a few years. But when that happened, they were amazing. They read what they could find and spoke with anyone who had knowledge on the topic of TS and its other related disorders. And they didn’t even have the Internet to inform or misinform them!

Nowadays, it’s very different. There’s too much information. I can’t even imagine how overwhelming it must be to a parent who has just found out their child has TS and they haven’t heard of it before (or what they have heard are the frustrating stereotypes I still face now and then).

The title of this blog post is brought on by a poem that I first read at one of the national conferences many years ago. I think it’s often shared at the moms’ session, but is typically in every conference binder.

Read the poem and then I’ll give you some of my thoughts on what is discusses…

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What’s wrong with her? Oh she has Tourettes

Posted on March 22, 2011 Posted in 2011, Family, Fundraising, NL, Tourette Syndrome, TSFC .

Trek for Tourette 2011

The following entry is based on notes from a public speaking engagement in fall 2009 whenI was on a guest panel while attending the annual conference and AGM for the Tourette Syndrome Foundation of Canada. I have since updated some details to reflect my current life:

Hi there, I’m Virginia Middleton. I’m 29 years old and I live in St. John’s with my wonderful husband. I have a university degree, a certificate in Criminology and a post graduate diploma in corporate communications and public relations. I’m currently a communications coordinator at the Faculty of Medicine at Memorial University of Newfoundland.

I have lived most of my life in St. John’s, Newfoundland and Labrador and at the age of six, I was diagnosed with a mild case of Tourette Syndrome (TS). Now just because I’m considered to have mild TS doesn’t mean that growing up was a cake-walk or that I had it easy by any stretch. Let me tell you what my family when through when I was diagnosed…

When I was around six years old, my parents and other family members noticed that I was doing some odd eye movements and scrunching up my nose at random.  Sometimes it was more obvious, othertimes they saw me rolling my eyes around when I thought no one was looking. I also started making little humming noises from the back of throat; which we now know were vocal tics.

We paid a visit to my family doctor and he recommended that I see a specialist. It was suspected that I could have Tourette Syndrome and back in the mid-80s, the disorder wasn’t as well know as it is today. So off we went to see a specialist at the Janeway Children’s Hospital. And so the journey began…

After some time, a specialist decided to give my parents “the news“. It wasn’t pretty. He bascially said, “I’m sorry to tell you, but your daughter has Tourette Syndrome and there’s nothing we can do. She really has no future and will unfortunately amount to nothing. She’ll have no friends, will not be able to get an education and going forward will be nothing but a burden.” Shocked, my parents told him about my recent birthday party that included almost all of my classmates and how much fun we all had. His response, “oh they’re too young to know better. She’ll be rejected by her peers in time.” 

My parents were shattered. It was like being hit by a bus. Here was their sweet, hyper, chatty, happy little girl who would now have a life of misery and hardship. They didn’t know what to do. Thankfully, they sought out a second opinion (I thank my lucky stars everyday that they did!). The second doctor said something along the lines of, “Oh yes, she has Tourette Syndrome, but it’s a mild case and she’ll be fine. It often lesssens over time. You should find out more information so that you can better understand it. Here’s a 1-800 number you can call that will get you in touch with other local families who also have this.”

It was that day that my parents called the Tourette Syndrome Foundation of Canada. OveTourette Syndrome Booksr time, they became heavily involved with the local chapter and my father volunteered on the national board for 14 years and was the national president for a number of years. I’ve attended numerous national conferences and have found a second family (more details on that to come).

I could go on, but feel that there are potential future posts here within this topic. The importance of support, public awareness and advocacy are just a few areas I want to cover at a later date.

I’m not looking for sympathy or a blanket excuse for when life gets tough. I’m here to give some perspective on a disorder that often gets a bad rap. Hollywood and the media have gotten better, but there are still occasions when a character will swear a lot and perform acts of violence, only to have it justified when someone says, “Oh s/he has Tourettes.” It’s a spectrum disorder and we’re like snowflakes – no two people are the same. While someone may have a shoulder shrug, I could have an eye twitch. And that eye twitch could wax and wan and you may never notice it. Before reading this, did you know I had Tourettes????

I want to read about…

Been there, done that

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